Couples therapy Amsterdam
Your relationship? It could be better. But how?
You live in or near Amsterdam and you are looking for a relationship therapist who speaks English. This makes sense if one or both of you don't speak Dutch very well. Couples therapy is about understanding the emotions and thoughts behind the behaviour of yourself and your partner. Discovering the real reason why your relationship is not going well and how to solve this can be liberating. Communicating in a right way is very important.
You have come to the right place with me, Alex Berendsen, certified couples therapist in Amsterdam.
I speak fluent English and guide couples towards a better relationship.
Couples therapy in Amsterdam using EFT
I use EFT techniques to help you improve your relationship. With EFT relationship therapy, you will discover what is behind the dissatisfaction in your relationship. Understanding emotions and needs in yourself and your partner creates mutual understanding. This allows you to reverse the negativity and move closer to each other.
Would you like to experience how EFT couples therapy can improve your relationship? Please contact me for an introductory session. You are welcome. I am located in the center of Amsterdam.
Why EFT couples therapy with Alex Berendsen in Amsterdam
Alex Berendsen is a certified EFT couples therapist. With over 10 years of experience in coaching and counseling, Alex knows how to put his finger on the sore spot.
Alex's approach with EFT is focused and effective. Within the first five sessions, many couples experience more understanding, less tension and a stronger emotional connection.
Do you or your partner not speak Dutch well? No problem at all. A large proportion of the couples who come to Alex for couples therapy do so in English.
You can choose for regular sessions or the intensive programme, specifically designed for couples with busy lives.
Alex is specialized in working with highly educated professionals and self-employed entrepreneurs who feel stuck in their relationship despite insight and responsibility
The practice is easy to reach by car and public transport and located in the centre of Amsterdam
EFT Couples therapy
With EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) you can improve your relationship by gaining insight into why you behave the way you do and how you react to each other.
EFT helps you understand not only why your partner behaves the way they do, but also your own behavior. The most heated arguments often start over nothing. It's the underlying emotions, needs and beliefs that cause them to escalate. Everyday problems are just manifestations of these.
Talking about what's bothering you is not enough. Unless the root of the problem is addressed, it will continue to fester. EFT gets to the root of the problem. That's why it is so effective, even in the long term.
EFT Relationship Therapy is a scientifically proven and highly effective method for deeply and permanently resolving relationship problems. 75% of couples who receive EFT relationship therapy report a significant improvement in their relationship.
How EFT couples therapy works: an example
Marieke and Peter argue more and more about small things. She has started to get irritated by seemingly small things and often confronts Peter about them. It turns out that Marieke is unhappy with the attention Peter pays to her and the family. Every little thing triggers her. Peter, on the other hand, doesn't understand why Marieke is always nagging about small things and avoids the situation by shutting down. As a result, their relationship continues to deteriorate.
Through EFT relationship therapy, Marieke and Peter have begun to recognize and understand their negative interaction patterns. Marieke argues in response to her feeling of not being seen. Peter shuts down to avoid feeling rejected.
Through relationship therapy, they learn not only to recognize and understand the patterns, but also how to break the pattern. They are given tools to communicate with each other, to share their feelings and to listen to each other without judgment.
An extremely qualified therapist. He is incredibly gentle and kind, while remaining precise and very relevant in his analysis. He helped us enormously and gave us hope. Thanks to Alex, we're living more serenely and surrounded by lots of love. I recommend him 1000%!
Joey and Hiba
For Which Couples This Approach Often Works Well
Many of the couples I work with are professionals, entrepreneurs or parents with busy lives. They care deeply about their relationship and want things to improve, but find that good intentions alone are not enough to break recurring patterns.
They often recognize themselves in the following:
- We both want our relationship to improve.
- We are willing to look at our own contribution to the pattern.
- We still want to reach each other, but sometimes no longer know how.
- We are stuck in a pattern, not stuck in the relationship itself.
- We are open to new insights and change.
Couples who recognize themselves in these points often experience meaningful progress relatively quickly. Not because their challenges are smaller, but because they are willing to look honestly at themselves and at each other.
5 sessions of couples therapy can make a world of difference
The basis for a major change in your relationship is a short and intensive program of 5 sessions.
In these sessions you will go through all 4 steps.
You will gain insight into the patterns that are holding you back and how to break them: Steps 1 and 2.
In subsequent sessions, you will break the patterns and learn new ways of thinking and behaving: Steps 3 and 4.
Choose the program that fits your relationship
Every relationship is different. Some couples benefit from a step-by-step process over several weeks. Others are looking for a more intensive format that creates greater focus, momentum and depth in a shorter period of time.
Regular sessions
For couples who want to work step by step towards greater insight, emotional safety and connection. In this EFT couples therapy programme, you gain insight into the negative patterns that maintain tension and distance, and learn how to reach each other more effectively during difficult moments.
We begin with a series of five sessions. By the end, many couples notice less negativity and more understanding in the way they relate to each other.
Investment 5 sessions: €550 excluding VAT
Intensive Program
For busy couples, weekly sessions are not enough to maintain momentum. Work, children and daily responsibilities can quickly take over, causing important insights to fade into the background.
The Intensive Program combines a preparation session, a full therapy day with three follow-up sessions over the following four weeks. By staying in the process longer during the full day, couples often reach a deeper level of understanding and connection more quickly. The follow-up sessions help translate these insights into lasting change in everyday life.
Investment: 1100,- ex VAT
During our introduction call, we can explore together whether the 5 Session Program or the Intensive Program would be the best fit for your situation.
About Alex Berendsen
My name is Alex. All my life I have been good at listening to people and sensing what is going on with the other person. For years, I worked in the corporate world. But what I was less good at was maintaining my romantic relationships.
I immersed myself in relationships and found it so interesting how patterns work that I decided to make a career change. This was more than 14 years ago. After taking several intensive courses, I started my practice in the center of Amsterdam. And with success. I have helped many couples to improve their relationship.
And of course, as the icing on the cake, I became the father of a son. And yes, the mother and I are also a close team. Together we are working on building an emotionally close relationship with our son.
Couples therapy in Amsterdam
Alex Berendsen's practice is located in the Bilderdijkpark. Ideal for those coming from Amsterdam or using public transportation.